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by Mayim Bialik on May 6, 2015 at 11:24 PM ET on Kveller.com
I witnessed history being made on Shabbat.
Rav Yosef Kanefsy of Congregation Bnai David in the Pico/Robertson neighborhood of Los Angeles joined a handful of Orthodox synagogues across the country by announcing that he and the synagogue have hired a female clergy person.
What is a female clergy person? Well, she is not a female rabbi, which the Reform and Conservative movements have ordained for decades.
She is an Orthodox woman who has been trained at Yeshivat Maharat who can serve alongside men as a person of respect, knowledge, and wisdom. She does things rabbis do like make halachic (according to Jewish law) recommendations, officiate at life cycle events, set the agenda and calendar for the synagogue, and serve as a religious and spiritual counselor. She can not do a handful of things that Orthodoxy prohibits women from doing, but she is working and living within the framework of Orthodoxy because she chooses to.
(I refuse to throw out the Orthodox baby with the Orthodox bathwater. As humans, we all have to do things and talk to people and listen to opinions all of the time we don’t wholly agree with or like. It’s OK to have tension in life. Do I love the way Orthodoxy treats women 100 percent of the time? Of course not. Does it mean Orthodoxy is dumb and ought to be dismissed? Of course not. It means it’s a work in progress. I have patience.)
Morateinu (Teacher) Alissa Thomas-Newborn is smart as a whip, friendly, engaging, approachable, and eloquent. She is learned. She is capable. She is the woman I currently most want to have as a best friend. If you are reading this, Morateinu, can we be besties?
There are people for whom this announcement is so out of their comfort zone culturally speaking that they can not accept it. But it is honest-to-goodness halachic-ally appropriate. Rav Yosef discussed Rabbi Ovadiah Yosef and Maimonides, and all sorts of other relevanthalachic opinions about her. We’re good.
I went up to Morateinu Alissa in shul after services concluded and I told her I have been waiting for her literally for years. We need her. Why do I know this?
Well, when I was getting divorced, I spoke to male rabbis. I spoke to their wives. I spoke to therapists, and mentors, and other women who had been divorced. But there were questions I longed to ask a woman who was trained in halacha. I needed her then.
I needed this woman. I needed someone with her expertise who could also hug me as I cried. I needed her to comfort me in a way that the men I spoke to simply could not, and in a way the women I spoke to could not. She is trained as an expert of halacha and the hearts that cling to it. We need women’s voices for this reason in our synagogues.
Usually I skip the rabbi’s sermon because it’s a long time for my boys to sit (they prefer to sit with me rather than go to the “kid’s room” synagogues offer); this Shabbat, I told them we would be staying for all of the rabbi’s sermon. My older son fidgeted and asked if he could go to the men’s side to sit with my lawyer/mentor/friend we went with. I snapped at him under my breath: “You are not going anywhere. History is being made. Sit down and pay attention!”